So this post will plant me firmly in the “old fuddy duddy” category. My husband and I just had an anniversary so I’m in reflection mode. I keep thinking about how our love has changed over the years.
I think if dating-me saw married-me, she’d be appalled.
I put make-up on once a week. I don’t get up before dawn to sweetly kiss my husband before he leaves for work. We don’t do couples’ devotions. The house is far from the haven I wanted to provide for him. Dates are extremely rare. I don’t get butterflies anymore.
And here’s why I’m ok with it.
I’ve learned over the years, that there’s nothing more romantic than when my guy willingly offers to change a poopy diaper. There’s nothing more thrilling than when he comes home to me every. single. day. There’s nothing more comforting than knowing my husband has loved me when I was unlovable. My love is no longer new and exciting, but it’s been tested and found true.
My husband has been faithful to me when I just wanted to run away from it all. He’s seen my ugly and still finds me beautiful. We know each other. Like, REALLY know each other. Intimacy isn’t always pretty. But dang, when you know you’ll be loved no matter what you dish out, that’s security.
So while my love story may not be Hollywood swoon-worthy, it’s what I really want. You young’uns ain’t got nothing on us!
Debra WIlson says
So true and so wonderful put!
Thanks for reading!
This is a perfect post-love can’t forever be about the excitement, it has to evolve and become all about the day to day. That doesn’t mean you won’t get butterflies from time to time though…I still get that giddy feeling now and then when I least expect it. I wish everyone could view marriage from this perspective as it’s a natural progression.
Agreed, those feelings do come on occasion, but I’ve gotta stop using them as a test of how good our marriage is, ya know! Thanks for writing!
Just wanted to say how much I enjoyed reading your reflections on your own marriage. I know I have so much more to learn about marriage and in it. Your thoughts have stirred up some of my own and are causing me to change my point of view. A lot of times, rather most of the time I should admit, there is a huge Hollywood endused “this is how it is supposed to be” filter between me and how beautiful God has really made my marriage to my handsome hubby. Tearing down that filter and seeing the great works God is performing before my very eyes is extremely humbling. I need that humbling too.
Thanks for being part of the change that God is working in me for the good of my own marriage.
Same here with needing to learn and grow so much more in my marriage! Thrilled to be small part of that with you!
Cait FItz @ My Little Poppies says
Love this! You should listen to the song (or read the lyrics) “You Get a Love Song” by Lori McKenna. She’s been with her husband since they were in HS and I thought of the song while reading this. Happy belated anniversary!
I’ll have to check it out! Thanks!