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What to do DURING a Sensory Meltdown

January 28, 2019 By Julie 6 Comments

Inside you’ll find: Practical techniques you can do WHILE your child is having a sensory meltdown from sensory overload.

 

Sometimes you see it coming from a mile away. Other times it comes out of nowhere and knocks you off your feet.

Regardless of how it comes, when your child has a sensory meltdown, it’s a force to be reckoned with.

Though everything may seem to be out of control, there are things you can do to assist your child in regulating their system.

Young mother holding a crying preschooler who is having a sensory meltdown. Text overlay reads "How to Respond during a Sensory Meltdown"

What NOT to do During a Sensory Meltdown

First off, don’t lose your calm.

I know it’s obvious, but I also know it’s hard. Dang hard!

 

Two things to keep in mind.

  1.  It won’t last forever.
    There will be a calm after this storm. In the middle of these thing, it’s easy to lose perspective.
  2. Emotionally distance yourself.
    Now I don’t mean, become a robot or don’t offer sympathy and love. But we as parents do have a tendency to see a current behavior and quickly envision a catastrophic future for our child.
    Instead, when you’re really in the heat of the moment, try and think of your child as someone else’s kid. You still care, you’re still invested in helping them, but you won’t be as tempted to rage or despair.

Secondly, don’t try and address behavior issues DURING a sensory meltdown.

When they are in a meltdown, your child is in a full blown fight or flight mentality. Reasoning with them is pointless.

Help your child regain control of their system and action, then discuss any behavior issues that happened before or during the meltdown.

Child showing defiant behavior during sensory meltdown

What TO do During a Sensory Meltdown

Model Breathing

One of the most effective strategies for calming a child who is having a sensory meltdown is to try calming breathing techniques. But often times in the middle of sensory overload, a child will refuse to attempt to slow their breath, or may just insist that they can’t.

That’s the time to start the exercises yourself. It’s amazing how your loud but controlled and calm breathing can have an effect on a volatile situation. Give it a try!

Calm Down Bin

Offer a treasure trove of calming tools for your child. ( Here’s what we stock in our sensory calm down bin. ) Look for things that will help them get proprioceptive input, or relief from sensory input they want to avoid (noise canceling headphones are a must!).

Distraction

While not a guarantee, distracting your child can sometimes help them snap out of their spiral and regain control.

Now, you don’t want to give them something that they’re throwing a fit about (and if they’re crying just to get something they want, you’re probably looking at a behavior issue.) But you can offer them something totally unrelated. A cool bird outside, a funny clip on your phone, or even ask them to hold an ice cube!

Sneaky Proprioception

Proprioceptive input is the king of the senses because of it’s immense ability to calm and help regulate the entire body. This sense gets input through the joints and ligaments and provides body awareness.

While you might not be able to convince your child to do heavy work like jumping on a trampoline in the middle of a meltdown (though you can certain suggest it!), there are ways to sneak some proprioceptive input into a tense situation.

Be thinking of ways to add weight or pressure to your child’s body. Something as simple as a hug, or inviting them to “push a wall over” can defuse the situation.

Hang In There

This tips can help your child regain calm during a sensory meltdown, but they aren’t going to work every time. Just because they don’t work once, doesn’t mean they won’t work on another occasion.

Be understanding and sympathetic to your child while still maintaining authority and safety. Give everyone, including yourself, heaps of grace.

Navigate the crisis then move on with more resolve to get the sensory input your child needs throughout the day!

Julie is a frazzled mom of three tornadoes. As a dorky second-generation homeschooler, she writes about learning and play, natural living, special needs parenting and matters of the heart. She serves an astounding God that radically saved her.

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Comments

  1. Full Spectrum Mama says

    February 7, 2019 at 8:30 am

    LOVE this post — so wise and helpful and PRACTICAL.

    As a neurodiverse parent, I also have meltdowns (they are internal after a lifetime of practice, but they are still HARD), and these seem fitting for the whole family!!

    Thanks and love,
    Full Spectrum Mama

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  2. Laura says

    February 23, 2019 at 8:30 am

    When my daughter (Sophia) was younger, the only thing that worked was to sing a song with her name in it. She was curious (she was her own favorite topic!!) so had to stop crying/screaming/etc. in order to hear. Once the spell of her mood was broken, then we could move to other strategies–remove her from the situation, rock her into being calm, feed her if hunger was a contributing cause, etc. And when trying to figure out if something was a “tantrum” versus a “meltdown,” I always erred on the side of “meltdown” because that label let me behave more productively. By the way, Sophia is now 18 and is basically doing fine.

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  3. Ashley Nichole Owen says

    March 3, 2020 at 12:34 am

    I have sensory overload in cars now which is not my normal overload its normally crowds or even bright lights. I got into a crash 4 days after having my son and thats when it started. Its a year later and I freak out in cars, I lose focus on everything but the road, I cant drive, everything in movement is too much and I even cry. My bf has been understamding for a year and a half and we have tried everything to help. I need advise bad before it affects my life anymore than it already has guys

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