Without a word, the other mom at the park made her opinions of my parenting clear.
“You’re spoiling them.” could be read clear as day on her face.
With too many words, my childless sister gave me her thoughts on my parenting failures.
“You’re making excuses.” still echos in my brain, causing me doubt.
As a sensory parent, there’s a constant internal struggle as you weigh whether your child’s struggles are motivated by sensory needs or behavior issues. That’s hard enough.
But then there’s everyone else. Everyone throwing in their two cents that, at best, merely hurts your feelings, and at worst, paralyses your ability to take confident action.
This post isn’t going to focus on your immediate family.
Here are some small steps you can take to help sensory kids EVERYWHERE!
Show Them Grace and Be Humble
Most people who aren’t supportive of your sensory parenting simply lack knowledge. Let’s admit, we were ALL once ignorant of sensory needs and probably hurt others without even knowing it.
Instead of getting all up in arms about a comment or a look, let’s choose to patiently teach others about sensory needs.
Another big step to bridge the gap is to BE teachable. All kids are whole persons, not merely sensory beings. We are imperfect parents who need to continue to examine our parenting and change what needs changing.
But that won’t happen if we have a wall up whenever someone sees the situation differently. It’s humbling to be critiqued, but it’s for your kids’ good.
Awareness of sensory issues is definitely on the rise, but if it’s not an issue in your friend’s family, they probably have a very shallow understanding of SPD.
One of the main reasons I pour my heart and soul into this blog is to provide resources for sensory parents to share with others. Hop over to my Facebook page or Instagram page and share on your personal profiles.
You have no idea what an impact you can make by spreading knowledge of sensory needs, not just for your kid, but others who are struggling.
Remember Who You Are
The looks and the words are still going to come. I wish I could sweep them all away for you, but I can’t. When those times come, you need to give yourself a truth bomb. You were chosen to be your unique child’s parent, flaws and all. You know them better than anyone and you love them more than anyone.
You can parent well without others approval or understanding. Pass grace and knowledge on to your accusers, and then get down to the real business of being the best sensory parent you can be by the grace of God.
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